One of my favorite sex games is changing position: making a sexual encounter more than just him-on-top, her-on-top, doggy-style or whatever. Don't get me wrong, I do love the man-on-top sex position: feeling him on top of me, feeling his weight, with just that little frisson of being dominated (only by a loving, gentle, trusted partner, mind). It's a wonderful position for the initial coming together (so to speak!) and we can kiss and look at each other, and my hands are free to caress his back, bottom and even his balls with a bit of stretching. I can vary the position slightly by moving my legs: either clasped around his waist (that really excites him!), straight out, bent at the knees (allowing slightly deeper penetration) or very straight and almost together which means my thighs add pressure to his penis and balls. This last position usually means a bit of wriggling around by both man and woman to get it right, but it's worth it!

However, rather than stay in the same sex position throughout our lovemaking, what I really like after a while is for us to roll on our sides - and it doesn't matter which way we turn, since we can vary it. We can see each other even better and I can reach round much more easily to find his balls and even caress the base of his penis as it slides in and out of me. I find it amazing that side by side sex positions are usually recommended only for fat people or pregnant women. Believe me, sex in this position is worth a try!

And it's really easy once you get the knack. First of all, the woman needs to raise her legs, knees bent, until her thighs are level with the man's waist.  This is important, unless you like crushed thighs! Now he needs to thrust deeply and hold his penis inside her. Now embrace each other firmly, decide which way you're going to roll (after you've done this a few times, and if you and your partner are closely tuned into each other, you'll probably find you don't have to think about this) and over you go!  The woman's thigh which is underneath should feel quite comfortable if it is at her partner's waist level. If it's feeling squashed, simply adjust yourselves until it feels OK.

You'll find this position allows better visual scope all round than the man-on-top. It's wonderful for a sense of deep, spiritual connection during really exciting physical sex. You can talk, smile, look lovingly into each others' eyes, and if you are skilled in such matters you can send beautiful energy between your heart chakras as well as your sexual centers. It's also a very restful position for end of the day pre-sleep lovemaking when neither of you feels particularly like strenuous chandelier swinging. And you will find that even very small movements are deliciously sensitive. No wonder this position is one of our favorites!

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